Traveling Through the Pain of WORDS

I don't think anyone realized how much hurt they can cause a person just by the things they say. My mother always me that words only hurt because we give them power. This saying may be true when it comes to bullying by random characters in your life who have never gotten to know you and they aren't trying to either. This may be also true when it comes to your arch nemesis I mean really do you actually care about what they have to say. I don't. I guess that is why I have never had a problem with those types of situations. Which this blog by no means is about bullying. Bullying was just example. Anyway I am starting to believe that my mother was wrong. Words only hurt coming from the people that you give power to. When I say give power it means coming from the person you love. You'll never forget the hurt and the pain caused just by their words. The tone of their voice. The callousness of the phrases. And even when they apology is there they can never get that just right to take away the pain they caused by what came out of their mouth before. We are all guilty of this at one point and time or another. Some of us forgive but the forgetting part is the hard part. Its almost like we have to repress it and go on as if the pain never existed. But you know what hurts more than words.... Is the silence the silence of after everything has happened and all you do is have time to replay the last interaction with that person over and over in your head. Its funny because when that person comes around wanting to talk to you again apart of you is happy but the pain is still there. So do you act like nothing ever happen and get back on speaking terms. Or do you tell them how bad they hurt you and work towards trying to fix it. A lot of people choose not to let that other person have the satisfaction... But who has satisfaction after hurting someone they deeply cared about. It cuts like a knife in your soul when you realized that you've caused someone who you felt was worthy enough to be in your life pain. So what do you do to stop this from happening? Do strip them of their power or do you work on your communication issues?